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Honest reviews, real experiences and the kind of dating advice your search history wishes it found sooner.
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Dear Companies – Addressing Privacy Concerns Amongst Sex Writers
Read more →: Dear Companies – Addressing Privacy Concerns Amongst Sex WritersDearly beloved peddlers of my favourite sexual wares – this one’s for you The World Wide Web is staring down its 30’s, Google is finally…
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Getting To Know My G-spot
Read more →: Getting To Know My G-spotDespite possessing it for twenty-some odd years and being aware of its existence for at least a decade, I still haven’t fully grasped all the nuances of my…
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MILFs in My Area and How to Actually Approach Us
Read more →: MILFs in My Area and How to Actually Approach UsThere’s a lot of noise online about MILFs, a lot of fantasy, a lot of weird assumptions, and honestly, not a lot of useful information.…
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Real Hookup Sites That Are Worth Your Time and Your Nudes
Read more →: Real Hookup Sites That Are Worth Your Time and Your NudesMost hookup sites are garbage. You sign up, upload a photo, and within ten minutes you’re drowning in bot messages and subscription upsells. It’s exhausting.…
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Meet Girls for Sex Without the Creepy Nonsense
Read more →: Meet Girls for Sex Without the Creepy NonsenseAdvice out there on how to meet women for sex is either written by someone who’s never actually done it, or it treats women like…
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Atlanta Hookup Scene and Where to Actually Find Fun in the City
Read more →: Atlanta Hookup Scene and Where to Actually Find Fun in the CityAtlanta doesn’t get nearly enough credit for its dating scene. People talk about New York or LA like those are the only cities where adults…
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A Safer, Sex-Positive Community? What Does That Look Like? – Reflections from Playground Conference 2026
Read more →: A Safer, Sex-Positive Community? What Does That Look Like? – Reflections from Playground Conference 2026I wrote previously about my experience with one of the presentations offered at Toronto’s 2026 Playground Conference, and even though it was many many weeks ago now, I’m…
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Adult Dating from a Woman Who Has Tried Everything
Read more →: Adult Dating from a Woman Who Has Tried EverythingI have tried a lot. Embarrassingly a lot. Adult dating sites, apps, personals, forums, you name it. Some of it was great, some of it…
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Understanding My Weird Vulva
Read more →: Understanding My Weird VulvaDisclaimers: I’d been with a number of women in my 14 years of sexual activity, but this was going to be different than any experience…
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Las Vegas Hookup Guide Because What Happens Here Deserves Better
Read more →: Las Vegas Hookup Guide Because What Happens Here Deserves BetterVegas gets a reputation as this magical place where anything goes and everyone’s down for whatever. And honestly? It’s not entirely wrong. But it’s also…
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Do You Promise? – A tale of emotional abuse and personal growth
Read more →: Do You Promise? – A tale of emotional abuse and personal growthI had my first real boyfriend at 13 years old. Within a few weeks we were saying the L word and were pretty sure our…
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Toy Review – The B Ball Uno by Fun Factory
Read more →: Toy Review – The B Ball Uno by Fun FactoryI asked the universe for more butt toys, and the universe delivered. Well, actually it was SheVibe, but that’s basically the same thing. In many…
Best Adult Dating Sites and Hookup Apps I’ve Actually Used
Every year a new batch of dating sites launches promising to revolutionize how adults find sex. Most of them are the same recycled garbage in a shinier wrapper. I know because I sign up for all of them.
Here are the platforms that earned a spot on my list not because they paid me but because they actually delivered real conversations with real people:
Tinder – Still the default. Enormous user base, fast matches, zero pretense about what most people are there for.
Feeld – Built for the sexually adventurous. Couples, kinksters, anyone tired of pretending they want vanilla.
Ashley Madison – Controversial but functional. Discreet adult dating for people in complicated situations.
Hinge – Surprisingly good for casual if you filter right. The prompts give you more to work with than a shirtless mirror pic.
Adult Friend Finder – The veteran. Massive catalog, active community, and yes real people actually use it despite what it looks like at first glance.
Bumble – Women message first which filters out the worst opener offenders immediately.
I rotate through these regularly and update my reviews when things change. Algorithms shift, user bases migrate, and the site that worked six months ago might be dead now.
What doesn’t change is my criteria: real users, functional features and a platform that respects the people on it.
Sex Positive Means Telling the Truth Not Just the Fun Parts
Being sex positive gets misunderstood constantly. People think it means saying yes to everything. It doesn’t. It means being honest about desire without shame and equally honest about the parts that suck.
Bad hookups happen. Apps lie about their user numbers. Someone you matched with turns out to be three red flags in a trench coat. That is part of the experience and pretending otherwise helps nobody. I write about all of it because the messy parts are where the useful information lives.
I came up on Tumblr where the line between porn and discourse barely existed. That taught me something valuable you can reblog something that turns you on and in the next post break down why consent matters in kink spaces. Sexuality is not one note. It’s complicated and contradictory and worth examining closely.
On SexBloggess you’ll find sex toy reviews next to essays about feminism next to brutally honest hookup site breakdowns. That’s not a lack of focus. That’s what sexuality actually looks like when you stop pretending it fits in a single category.
I’m a self-described terrible writer who keeps writing anyway. If you find something useful, relatable or just amusing here then I’ve done what I set out to do. Welcome to the blog. It’s good to meet you.