General Musings

Last year was the first time I wrote any sort of year-end-recap and I did it mostly because of how Covid had changed so much, not only on my blog (was a bit of a slow year) but also life in [...]

Hi there! Sorry it’s been a while since our last chat, I was taking a little break. Previously we covered some safety aspects that are attached to acting out your kinks, and dug a little [...]

... A lot of the time, it's not safe for women to speak up and tell the person they are having sex with "your dick is trash."...

Alright, so we’ve discovered that we might not be very vanilla afterall, and we’ve touched on (but certainly not exhausted) the vast array of roles and labels we might find ourselves [...]

Alternately titled – What felt good this year when literally nothing felt good  I’ve never done a “year end wrap up” style post before but this seemed like as good a [...]

Frenzy and FOMO – two terms we use a lot in “The Scene”, especially around newbies. What do they mean? Why do we feel them? What do we do about it? That’s what this post [...]

Now that we’ve gotten over some of the initial freak-out of discovering this vast brand new world, let’s slap on some name tags and get down to business.  One of the biggest questions [...]

First of all, welcome home! A little bit of a foreword :  I’ve identified as kinky since basically forever now. I’m certainly not the one-true-voice-of-kink but I do hope to [...]

Dearly beloved peddlers of my favourite sexual wares – this one’s for you   The World Wide Web is staring down its 30’s, Google is finally old enough to buy cigarettes, and [...]

Squirting – it’s trending right now. It has been for a few years with everyone from Cosmopolitan to Buzzed News, The Frisky to Refinery29, Thoughtcatalog, Women’s Health [...]

I wrote previously about my experience with one of the presentations offered at Toronto’s 2015 Playground Conference, and even though it was many many weeks ago now, I’m still working [...]