Unpopular Opinion – Fake All The Orgasms You Have To
... A lot of the time, it's not safe for women to speak up and tell the person they are having sex with "your dick is trash."...
Help! I’m Kinky? A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 2 : Learning The Ropes – Safety and Consent
Alright, so we’ve discovered that we might not be very vanilla afterall, and we’ve touched on (but certainly not exhausted) the vast array of roles and labels we might find ourselves [...]
2020 New Flings and Old Flames
Alternately titled – What felt good this year when literally nothing felt good I’ve never done a “year end wrap up” style post before but this seemed like as good a [...]
Help! I’m Kinky? A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 1 : Now What? – Fetish Frenzy and FOMO
Frenzy and FOMO – two terms we use a lot in “The Scene”, especially around newbies. What do they mean? Why do we feel them? What do we do about it? That’s what this post [...]
Help! I’m Kinky? A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 1 : Now What? – Roles, Labels and Terminology
Now that we’ve gotten over some of the initial freak-out of discovering this vast brand new world, let’s slap on some name tags and get down to business. One of the biggest questions [...]
Help! I’m Kinky? A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 1 : Now What? – A Foreword
First of all, welcome home! A little bit of a foreword : I’ve identified as kinky since basically forever now. I’m certainly not the one-true-voice-of-kink but I do hope to [...]
How do I love a body that refuses to love me back?
How do you love a body that refuses to love you back. That’s a question I’ve had for what feels like forever. To be clear – if you’re looking for an answer in this post, I don’t think [...]
For The Love Of Fucking Packers
No I mean like…fucking packers. I’ve long been on the search for the perfect dildos. In my case, perfect means soft, squishy, pliable. Boring in shape and accommodating in size, [...]
Do You Promise? – A tale of emotional abuse and personal growth
Content Warning : Emotional and psychological abuse in relationships, mental health and self-esteem, suicide, sexual assault, date rape. I had my first real boyfriend at 13 years old. [...]
Dear Companies – Addressing Privacy Concerns Amongst Sex Writers
Dearly beloved peddlers of my favourite sexual wares – this one’s for you The World Wide Web is staring down its 30’s, Google is finally old enough to buy cigarettes, and [...]
Are You Asking The Right Questions About Squirting?
Squirting – it’s trending right now. It has been for a few years with everyone from Cosmopolitan to Buzzed News, The Frisky to Refinery29, Thoughtcatalog, Women’s Health [...]
Getting To Know My G-spot
Despite possessing it for twenty-some odd years and being aware of its existence for at least a decade, I still haven’t fully grasped all the nuances of my finicky G-spot. In fact I [...]
Understanding My Weird Vulva
Disclaimers: This post has the potential to go in a million different directions, so consider this your warning that I may ramble off into tangents I recognize and believe that not everyone with [...]
A Safer, Sex-Positive Community? What Does That Look Like? – Reflections from Playground Conference 2015
I wrote previously about my experience with one of the presentations offered at Toronto’s 2015 Playground Conference, and even though it was many many weeks ago now, I’m still working [...]
My Sexual Voice
Last weekend I had the opportunity to attend my first conference on sexuality since embarking on my blogging adventure. It was called Playground, hosted right at home in Toronto, a three-day [...]